we call loudly on those in the higher walks of life to do so, and to wipe away the reproach on Israel.

In being introduced to a new acquaintance, there should be more dignity and a little more distance in the manner of the married woman than that of the single lady.

When she visits in a morning call, let her neither hurry off, after a few moments of empty talk; nor stay too long, never considering the convenience of her who receives her. She should walk gently down stairs, not talking loud to any one as she goes. Never let her apologize for not having called sooner, unless positively necessary; such apologies are vastly like affronts.

In receiving guests the English lady has much to learn from the French hostess. Many a time has, the visitor in England been met with symptoms of hurry and preoccupation, remarkably embarrassing to those who call; or the carriage is announced directly after her arrival, and the lady of the house looks as if she thought her friend ought to go. Some under-bred ladies, in country towns, look out of the window half of the time, or put tidy their workboxes, making you feel that you are secondary. As an immutable law of hospitality and good-breeding, a guest should always be the first and sole object when alone with you.

It is one advantage of the French system of having a day on which to receive morning callers, that the lady of the house is ready, and willing to let so many idlers into her drawing-room. In no respect does the French lady shine so much as in her reception of those who, as she appears to think, "do her the honor" to enter her house. It is this that makes the difference. In England we seem to think we do people an honor in letting them cross our

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thresholds and come up our stairs. The French lady advances to meet the ladies, but waits to receive the gentleShe has a chair ready for every one, and the rooms of the fashionable are often full to crowding, yet no one is neglected. Something civil (and "civil with ease”), appropriate, well-turned, and often gracefully kind, is said to every one. The stranger or foreigner is not left out of the conversation previously going on; he or she is not made to feel "you are not one of us; the sooner you go the better." The conversation is soon general, though without introductions, Having said all you wish, and stayed the usual time, you rise, and the lady follows you to the door, where a servant is waiting to conduct you down stairs and call your carriage into the cour. This agreeable accueil forms a strong contrast to the ennui which a mal-a-propos visit often seems to produce in a. London drawing-room, and the evident despatch with which a lady often rings the bell to let you out, often sitting down and resuming a conversation before you are half across the old and spacious apartment.

In regard to the physical carriage of women, the graces of an upright form, of elegant and gentle movements, and of the desirable medium between stiffness and lounging, are desirable both for married and single. The same rules and recommendations are applicable to both. Control over the countenance is a part of manners. As a lady enters a drawing-room, she should look for the mistress of the house, speaking first to her. Her face should wear a smile; she should not rush in head-foremost; a graceful bearing, a light step, an elegant bend to common acquaintance, a cordial pressure, not shaking, of the hand extended to her, are all requisite to a lady. Let her sink

gently into a chair, and, on formal occasions, retain her upright position; neither lounge nor sit timorously on the edge of her seat. Her feet should scarcely be shown, and not crossed. She must avoid sitting stiffly, as if a ramrod were introduced within the dress behind, or stooping Excepting a very small and costly parasol, it is not now usual to bring those articles into a room. An elegantly worked handkerchief is carried in the hand, but not dis

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played so much as at dinner parties. (A lady should conquer a habit of breathing hard, or coming in very hot, or even looking very blue and shivery. Anything that detracts from the pleasure of society is in bad taste.

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In walking the feet should be moderately turned out, the steps should be equal, firm, and light. A lady may be known by her walk. The short, rapid steps, the shaking the body from side to side, or the very slow gait which many ladies consider genteel, are equally to be deprecated. Some persons are endowed with a natural grace that wants no teaching; where it is not the case, the greatest care should be taken to engraft it in childhood, to have a master, not for dancing alone, but for the even more important attributes of the lady's carriage. To bow with grace, or to curtesy when required, to move across a room well, are points which strike the attention almost unconsciously to ourselves, and the neglect of which often provokes comment even on those in other respects well qualified to adorn society.

PART II.

THE INDIVIDUAL IN INDIVIDUAL RELATIONS.

CHAPTER IX.

IN PUBLIC. THE PROMENADE, ETC.

So now, my dear Sir and my dear Madam, you are dressed, you have your accomplishments feady for use, you know how to carry yourself, what good habits to attend to, what bad ones to avoid; you have made a full examination of yourself; you feel confident that you are "a complete gentleman," or "a charming woman;" you have had lunch, you feel comfortable and happy, and you say to yourself, "Let me go out and put these good rules into practice.”

So then, if you are a man, you consult nobody but your watch; if you are a young lady, you consult mamma, and both having obtained the requisite assent, you, sir, issue forth with your watch, and you, mademoiselle, with your chaperon, and you go to meet your acquaintance in the walk. Where the said walk may be is little matter. the days of the Stuarts, you would have repaired to the transepts of old St. Paul's, then the fashionable promenade. In a later reign you would have turned your steps to the 'Mall," and met Beau Tibbs there in all his glory. Now,

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if you live in London, you make for Rotten Row; if in a watering-place, for the Promenade or the Parade, or bref, whatever may be the spot chosen for the gay peacocks to strut in.

You have not been there two minutes before you meet somebody you know. But that is a very vague term; for you may know people in almost a dozen different ways. First, then, you know them slightly, and wish to recognize them slightly. Your course is simple enough. If you are a lady, you have the privilege of recognizing a gentleman. You wish to do so, because there is no reason that you should not be polite to him. So when you come quite near to him and see that he is looking at you, you bow slightly, and pass on. There are one or two

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things to be avoided even in this. ever short-sighted, raise your glasses and stare at him through them before you bow; but as it is very awkward for a lady to bow by mistake to a gentleman she does not know, you should look at him well before you come up to him. If you are a man, on the other hand, and you meet a lady whom you know slightly, you must wait till she bows to you. You then lift your hat quite off your head with the hand, whichever it may be, which is farther from the person you meet. You lift it off your head, but that is all; you have no need, as they do in France, to show the world the inside thereof; so you immediately replace it. In making this salute, you bend your body slightly. If, which should rarely occur, you happen to be smoking, you take your cigar from your mouth with the other hand; so too, if you have your hands in your pockets, which I hope you will not, you take them out before bow