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refine these, not to stisie and destroy, is the business of common prudence and parental care,

15. I was led into this train of selections by an acquaintance with the family of Emilius, which is a rate instance of domestic felicity. Parents indulgent to their children, hoipitable to their frierids, and universally respected ; their sons (qually generous, modest and manly.

16. Emilia, an only daughter, the pride of her parents, polo Tessed of every accomplishment that can honor herself, or codear her to her friends ; an easy fortune, and a disposition to enjoy and improve it to the purpose of humanity ; perfect harmony of domestic life, and unaffected fatisfaction in the plca, fures of society, Such is the family of Emilius,

17. Such a family is a little paradise on earth ; to envy their happiness is almost a virtue, Conjugal respect, parental tendernels, fiial obediencc, and brotherly kindners are so feldom ini. ted in a family, ihat when I am honored with the friendship of such, I am equally ambitious 10 participate their happineís and profit by the example,

18. Emilia's fituation must by peculiarly agreeable. Her parents delighted to gratify her in every amusement ; and con. tented with this, she knows no wish beyond the facred bounds of honor. While by their indulgence she enjoys every rational pleasure, she rewards their generous cars, by a dutiful behavior and unblemished manners.

19. By thus discharging the reciprocal dutics of their relpective stations, the happiness of each is fecured. The folic. ituda of the parent and the obedience of the child equally contribute to the bliss of the little society : the one calling forth every act of tenderness, and the other displayed in all the filial virtues,

20. Few families are destined to be so happy as that of Em. ilius. Were I to choose the fituation where I could pass my life with most satisfaction, it would be in this domeltic cire cle. My house would then be the residence of delight, unmina gled with the axieties of ambition or the reg:ct of disappoints

21. Every act would be dictated by love and respect : every countenance would wear the smile of complaisance ; and the little unavoidable troubles, incident to the happiest situa. tion, would only serve to increase our friendship and improve our felicity, by making room for the exercise of virtue,

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Emilia, or the Happiness of Retirement, AS, daya I .

ed whether she was contented to live lo remote from the resort of company. She answered in the affirmative, and remarked further, iliat her situation enabled her to distinguish between real friends and complimentary ; For if llie lived in a more public place, she might be vitited by crowds of people, who were civil indeed, but had no motive for calling Ga ber, but to spend an idle hour and gaze on the busy multitude.

2. I was pleased with the remark, and was naturally lead to consider such a retired ftuation, az a fortunate circumilance for a young lady of delicacy. Not only the happiness of a family, hat the character of young women, both in a moral and social vicis, depends on a choice of proper compars:

2. A perpetual throng of company, especially if it furnikes a variety of new objects, has a pernicious effect on the difpofi. tions of female minds. Women are designed my nature to pre. fide over dometic affairs. Whatever parade they may make abroad, their real merit and real characters are known only at home.

4. The behaviour of servants, the neatness of farniture, the order of a table, and the regularity of domestic bufiness, are de. cilive evidences of female worth. Perhaps sweetness of temper does not contribute more to the happiness of their partners and their families than a proper attention to these articles.

5. For this reason, whatever has a tendency to divert the mirid from these concerns and give them a turn for empty show, endlefs noise, and taitelefs amusements, ought to be carefully avoided by young ladies who wish for reipect beyond the prefent moment.

6. Milles, who are perpetually surrounded with idle compa. ny; or even live in fight of it, though they may be fortunale enough to preserve their innocence, are ftill in hazard of con. tracting such a fondness for diffipation and folly, as to unfit ihrem for the superintendance of a family.

7. Another danger to which young women, poffeffed of pera fonal charms, are exposed in public places, is, the battery and admiration of men. The good opinion of a fop will hardly Hatter a woman of difcernment ; much lefs his ordinary compliments, which are commonly without meaning

8. But the lieart is often so disguiled, that it is difficult at

firft to distinguish between a coscomb and a man of worth ; or if it is ealy for an accute observer, yet their is great danger that vanity and inexperience will make young ladies overlook the distinction.

9. Few minds are effectually secured against the at:acks of flatcery. It is a poison the more fatal, as it feizes human nature in its weakest part. In youth when the passions are in full vigor, and the julgement feeble, female minds are peculiarly liable to be corrupteri by the cantagious influence of pretty civili. ties and affected admiration.

10. With whatever scraples they may at first listen to the praises that are bestowed on their real or pretended charms, a constant ftrain of flattering addresses, accompanied witia obses quious complaisance, seldom fails of giving item too tigh ar opinion of themselves. They are intenfibly led to believe, that they are pofleffed of virtues to which they are really strangers.

11. This belief satisfies them withont attempting any further improvement ; and makes them to depend, for reputation in life, on good qualities, the fancied exitence of which begins and ends with the falsehood of customary compliments.

12. Such ladies before marriage, are usually vain, pert, af. feated and filly; and after marriage, haughty, disappointed and peevish. The molt perfect beauty must fade, and cease to com. mand admiration ! but in molt instances the nuptial hour puts a period to that excess of flattering attention which is the bappi. ness of giddy females. The longest term of admiration must be short : That which depends folely on personal attractions is of. ten momentary

13. The more fattery is bestowed on young ladies, the less, in general, are they solicitous to acquire virtues which shall ena fure respect when admiration shall cease. The more they are praised in youth, the more they expect it in advanced life, when they have less charms to command it. Thus the excessive complaisance of admirers which is extremely pleasing at fixteen proves at forly a source of mertification and discontent. 14. I would by no means infindate that

ladies ought to be kept total strangers to company, and to rational protefsions of esteem. It is in company only that ihey can acquaint themíclves with mankind, acquire an easy address, and learn numberless litile decorums, which are essential and cannot be taught by precepi, Without these a woman will sometimes



deviate from that dignity and propriety of conduct, which in any fitnation, will fecure the good will of lier friends, and prevent the blushcy of her husband.

15. A fondness for company and amusement is blameable only when it is indulged to excess, and premitted to absorb more important concerns. Nor is fome degree of fisttery al. ways dangerous or useltss. The good opinion of mankind we are all delirons to obiain ; and to know that we polfejs it, often makes us ambitious to deserve it.

16. No passion is given to us in vain ; the best ends are sometimes cffected by the worst means ; and even female van. ity, properly managed, may prompt to the most meritorious actions. I should pay Emilia tut a very ill compliment to ale cribe her virtues to her local situation : for no person can claim, as a virtue, what she has been in no danger of losing.

17. But there is no retirement beyond the reach of tempta. tion, and the whole tenor or her conduct proves, that her up. blemished morals and uniform delicacy, proceed from betier principles than neceffity or accident.

18. She is loved and flattered, but she is not vain ; her como pany is universally coveted, and yet she has no airs of haughti. ness and disdain.

19. Her cheerfulness in company, shows that she has a re. lish for society ; her contentment at home, and attention to de. mestic concerns, are early specimens of her happy difpofiiion ; and her decent unaffected abhorrence of every species of licentious behavior, evinces beyond suspicion, that the innocence of her heart is equal to the charms of her person.

ULIANA is one of those rare women whose personal ata

tractions have no rivals, but the sweetness of her temper and the delicacy of her sentiments. An elegant perfon, regular features, a tine complexion, a lively expreslive countenance, an cały address, and those blushes of modesty that soften the soul of the beholder ; These are the native beauties, which render her the object of universal admiration.

2. But when we converle with her, and hear the melting expressions of unaffected sensibility and virtue that flow from her tongue, her personal charms reccive new lustre, and irrefiftibly engage the affections of her acquaintance.

3. Senable that the great source of, all happinefe, is purity

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of morals and an easy conscience, Juliana pays contant ind fincere attention to the duties of religion. She abhors the infamous, but faihionable vice of. deriding the sacred inflitution of religion.

4. She considers a lady without virtue as a mouler on earth; and every accomplithment, without morals, as polite deception. She is neither a hypocrite nor an enthusiast ; on the contrary, she mingles such cheerfulness with the religious duties of life, that even her piety carries with it , charm which insensibly al. Tures the profligate from the arms of vice.

5. Not only the general tenor of her life, but in particular her behaviour in church, evinces the reality of her religion. She esteems it not only criminal in a high degree, but extremely un. polite, to behave with levity in a place confecrated to the folcmn purpole of devotion.

6. She cannot believe that any person, who is solicitous to treat all mankind with civility, can laugh in the temple of Jeho. VAl}, and treat their great benefactor with heedless negle&t.

7. In polite life, the manners of Juliana are peculiarly engaging. To her superiors, le fhows The utmost deference and re{pect. To her equals, the most modeft complaisance and civility ; while every rank' experience her kindnels and affability.

8. By this conduct she secures the love and friendlip of all degrees. No perfon can despise her, for she does nothing that is ridiculous : lhe cannot be hated, for she does injury to none ; and even the malerolent whispers of envy are filenced, by her modest department and generous condescension.

9: Her conversation is lively and sentimental; free from falfe wir, frivolous minuteness, and affectation of learning. Althoug! her discourse is always under the direction of prudence, yet it appears un studied ; for her good fenfe always furnishes her with thoughts suited to the subject, and the purity of her mind ren. ders any caution in expressing them, almoft unnecessary.

10. She will not lead the conversation ; much less can se stun the ears of company with perpetual chat, to interrupt the discourse of others. But wlien occafion offers, she acquits here self with ease and grace; without the airs of pertnets, or the confusion of bashfulness.

11. But if the conversation happens to turn upon the foibles of either sex, Juliana discovers her goodness by filence, or by inventing palliations. She detest every species of flander.

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